Big and Scary

“…And were the children scAred?”

As grown-ups adjust and tackle their own trauma surrounding COVID-19, it’s time for us to take a step back and make sure our littles have space and time to process. Kids are lucky, in that they have this amazing built-in ability to process the world through PLAY. But what does play look like during quarantine? How are our youngest citizens coping with this sudden change? How do I talk to kids about the world right now without scaring them and without equally playing it off as no big deal?

It’s definitely weird to explain why we can’t go to the park or the library like we used to. Even weirder that we can’t hang with our neighbors or walk to the trail at the end of the street. Honestly, having no one around as the natural consequence is REALLY CONFUSING for young children. It’s not just the sick people who are home, its the people who don’t want to get sick or already got sick and didn’t get that sick or didn’t even get sick at all.

Reports of kids incorporating ‘coronavirus’ into their play are coming in, article here and podcast episode here, and are only the tip of the iceberg. Kids are processing this with the tools they have available, meaning it might not play out as ‘corona cooties’ but may be ‘alligators’ or ‘the big bad wolf.’ Fear is at the root of a lot of this play, and making sure you meet your child’s fears with confidence and respect is really important. It’s equally important to model being scared, conquering fear, and understanding that you can hold the somewhat conflicting ideas of fear and hope at the same time.

“…You bet theY were!”

One of my favorite books about being scared is called “Snip Snap! What’s That!” by Mara Bergman, illustrated by Nick Maland. This somewhat simple, and seemingly innocuous, story is PERFECT for tackling the complex emotion of fear. It is definitely a ‘repeat read’ in the preschool classroom… it’s the kind of book that as soon as we finish it the kids want to start it again IMMEDIATELY. So without further adieu, here’s Tiffany and her son sharing this gem with you:

“AlligAtor, You get out!”

I think the appeal of this book to children mainly stems from the validation of feeling scared AND also conquering that fear. It’s a confidence-booster of a story! I mean, who HASN’T wanted to cry and cry and cry and hide sometimes just like Johnathan?!

Before coronavirus hit the scene, I thought we’d moved on past this book. Books come and go in classrooms based on what kids are interested in and what they want to play (and what they’re learning from that particular book at that particular moment). When my family found ourselves at home for this extended period, the “why” questions started popping up at an equal rate to the alligator play. It was all we did for the first week… I was the alligator, I was the alligator catcher, the alligator was imaginary and we all caught it with nets together, the alligator was in the cave and we can’t go in the cave because alligators (naturally). Then I remembered this book and it all made sense!

We were playing and playing and playing at feeling afraid and taking back that fear.

I ordered another copy just for us as soon as that realization hit me. We’ve read it at least 10 times a day every day since it arrived, and I think there’s a little less fear in our lives because of it. We’ve practiced telling that alligator to get out - we are ready to take on whatever the world throws at us next.

Enjoy your day, and more importantly, enjoy your kids,

-TiffAnY